Sex. It’s an integral part of human life. It’s also taboo. I aim to change that. As a certified sex therapist, I know the important role that this form of physical expression takes in our lives. Unfortunately, in American society we are sexualized but not sexual. There is a difference. Sex is everywhere, and yet, we’re not allowed to talk about it. So, since it’s so hush-hush, where do you turn when things have gotten complicated and you can’t seem to fix it yourself? You come to someone like me!
As I’m sure you’ve noticed, I talk about couples all throughout this site. I LOVE couples! What more rewarding way to work with a couple than to help them navigate the fear that surrounds temporary setbacks in their sex life? In my office, sex isn’t a bad word. It’s not naughty, shameful, or selfish. It’s an important part of your relationship and your life. There are so many benefits to a healthy sex life: it’s a natural antidepressant, it increases feelings of self-worth, decreases feelings of unhappiness and isolation, provides better immunity, decreases stress, improves bonding, and so much more! I want you to know it’s a natural antidepressant that you are not exaggerating the toll the lack of sex is taking on your life and I take it seriously. We leave a big gaping hole about sex in our personal education. In our society, we are largely encouraged to seek out the answers ourselves. However, there’s a lot of misinformation out there. Having a safe, professional space to be upfront and discuss sexual issues can do a great deal in solving these problems much quicker than navigating them in the shadows alone. There are several things that you should know about your sex life:
First, it is NORMAL to have times when sex is less frequent than others. Just like love, our sex lives evolve. It can be hard to accept or even realize this if you aren’t educated about it. Also, as our bodies change, our sex lives change. In my office, we are upfront about all topics – including those that can feel embarrassing such as orgasms, erectile dysfunction, vaginal lubrication issues, fetishes and more. Illnesses and medications can greatly affect your sex life and your life as a couple. It doesn‘t have to mean the end of your sex life. Role shifts due to an illness or surgery can really wreak havoc in the bedroom. When you feel like a stranger in your own body, how are you supposed to allow someone else access to it? Things change, which changes our sex life. It’s temporary but terrifying. The fear then adds stress and pressure to perform, which decreases libido and adds to the problem. Stop the cycle now. I offer a safe, professional, FUN space to talk about these issues, coupled with practical real-life solutions. I want to get you back into your bedroom!